In a world full of “good vibes only” why do I talk about fear and self-doubt so much? Because these common yet crippling emotions stop so many people from living their actual lives. In a world constricted by fear and self-doubt, there is absolutely no room for “good vibes.”
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I’ve known people so plagued with self-doubt that they go beige when, underneath the facade, they are a prism of color and light.
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I’ve also known people who are ruled by fear. Their fear keeps them from dancing, singing, writing…laughing out loud. They “don’t want to look stupid” and — worst of all — judge the brave souls who enthusiastically step up onto the stage of life as ridiculous, impractical dreamers.
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If you’ve struggled in any way with fear or self-doubt, here’s how I have worked to overcome these evil destroyers in myself.
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I feel my feelings, then do what I want to do. 
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Since kindergarten, I wanted to be a singer. I was one of those kids who “practiced” in my bedroom for hours and sang in the choir but never NEVER tried out for a solo. 
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When I was a teenager, I was asked if I wanted to sing with my friend’s band. My mom said, “no way,” and I let that be the end of it. I doubted that I knew what was best for me (and that my mom must know better). I was too scared to expose myself to ridicule or “getting in trouble,” so I stayed locked in the bedroom.
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By the time I was in college, I chose to focus on the academic, the intellectual. I still loved music, so I decided to work at the college radio station instead of pursuing my lifelong dream of singing. Then, I got married and the music stopped altogether.
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When my son was 2 ½ years old, I realized I had betrayed myself, I had betrayed my heart and soul, my very being. I couldn’t allow my son to grow up with a mother who didn’t at least try to make a go of it as a singer/songwriter.
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So, at 30-years-old, I picked up the guitar, got myself a few lessons, wrote my first couple of songs, and sang at my first open mic six months later.

It was one of the best things I’ve ever done. 
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If you’d like to hear a song from that chapter of my life, click HERE. If you’d like to purchase a signed CD for 10 bucks, email me. I’m still really proud of the music I wrote, and I’d love for you to have it.
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Since my music days, life has been a series of leaps. And boy, have I been scared a LOT. I have doubted myself relentlessly. And yet…and yet, I still take time to dream. And I don’t let those dreams sit idol.
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I let all the feelings move through me, and then I move forward. I try and sometimes fail, but always, I learn.
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During the month of November, I’ll be working on my first novel. People who are still stuck in fear and self-doubt might ask the question, “but what if no one publishes it?”
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That’s not why I’m writing a book! I’m writing a book because I can, because these characters are alive for me, and because I want them to be alive for you, too.
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What are your dreams? How do you want to FEEL in your life?
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I invite you to find out. Join me on New Year’s Day for Intention: an afternoon to reflect, renew, and reignite your inner fire. What better way to start the new year than by devoting a few hours to your dreams?

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Register HERE.
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And speaking of dreams, I’ll be sharing inspiration along with all the real deal whoa-is-me moments of the novel re-visioning process (along with reflections on life and yoga) on my Instagram and Facebook pages. Join me if you haven’t already.
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Yours in truth and love,

Holly

What do you really want?
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