I have this friend (I’ll call her Trixie the Pixie) who calls me a unicorn from time to time. At first, my reaction was “Huh? What does that mean?” The person I learned to be in order to survive didn’t get it.
But slowly, I began to see that all the stuff I’ve spent a lifetime trying to hide like:
- being highly sensitive and intuitive
- loving new ideas and exploring them even when it seemed crazy
- sitting for hours pondering
- writing and creating just because I want to
- giving people LOTS of space so that they can discover their gifts
these were not things that made me an undesirable or “wrong.”
These traits are what – dare I say – make me a little magical aka “unicorn-ish.”
For years (okay, my entire life) people have looked at me sideways when I said things like:
“It was a feeling.”
“I trust my intuition; not reason.”
“I just KNOW.”
Intuition/Feeling: this is how I’ve created my life…following the intuitive breadcrumbs, trusting my gut. And, for most of my life, I felt deep shame about not being more practical, for not “falling in line.”
But today, I’m coming out.
I am INFP! I am a dreamer, an idealist with unbreakable conviction. I am an unapologetic utopian thinker. I am an artist. I am a writer. I am sensitive (I sometimes know what you’re feeling before you do). I am a teacher/healer. I am a unicorn.
What is an INFP? It’s a personality style designated through the Myers-Briggs system, and only about 2-4% of the population. Some nicknames for this type are the: idealist, healer, inspirer, dreamer, seeker. Learning this has made me feel so much less “weird.”
If you’re curious, I discovered this by taking several personality tests online (because I’m an online quiz geek). My favorite two are here (for the pictures…you’ll see) and here (for the awesome, spot-on content including a podcast).
I strongly encourage you to take the test yourself (hint: please!).
What would be even better? If you replied to this email with your results.
I’d love to know what you discovered.
Why am I telling you all this?
THIS is who will be showing up.
You will get something real with a sense of whimsy.
You will get someone who is deeply committed to the work she is doing.
You will get a compassionate, creative energy exchange.
I’ve discovered that the more I learn about myself and the more I accept myself for who I am, the more authentically I can show up in the world.
How many times have you been told you are wrong? Broken? Too “this” or too “that?”
What would it feel like for you to come out to the world as exactly who you are? How would it feel to embrace your “too much”? I can tell you that, for me, it has made all the difference.